Everyone wants to have a long-lasting relationship. And a long-lasting relationship is a healthy one. Thus, dearest, let’s have a quick class that can help you to build a healthy relationship with your partner.
1. Communicate openly, effectively, and transparently
When you’re in a relationship, you should remember that there are two people and the two of you has committed to an exclusive relationship. Therefore, communication is the number one rule. Although your partner seems to know you inside out, the two of you are still two different people with two different heads and not everyone is a mind reader, conflict is just unavoidable. Thus, communication should be established. You need to communicate openly and transparently with your partner in every circumstance. In addition, if conflict flicks, you should know the way to communicate effectively to put the fire down.
Don’t ever for any reason, you leave your partner and ignore them to return later after the situation is better. It’ll only build insecurity in your relationship. Even if you’re angry, communicate your need to have personal space.
2. Keep Realistic expectations
When you’re in a relationship, you’re often trapped in a fairy tale where your partner seems to be the prince charming on his white horse or the perfect savior from heaven. That is a mistake that can turn your relationship into hazard when you later realize that he’s just a normal human with flaws.
Keeping realistic expectations of your partner is a prime rule. When you jump into a relationship, you should be ready that your partner is not flawless and your partner should also know about that. Thus, the two of you can accept and respect each other more since you’re not blinded by the unrealistic expectations.
Don’t always expect your partner to be lovely, because a bad day can’t be detected and they can act a bit off because of that.
3. Build intimate time and respect personal space
In a relationship, you need to balance the “our time” and “me time”. Although it seems to be simple, this point often becomes the reason of toxic relationship. When you’re exclusive with someone, remember that you can’t be egoistic with your own needs neither is your partner. Make a regular schedule for the two of you and build a clear statement and understanding about how the two of you want to run it. When it’s done, the two of you can continue to talk relating personal space. Respect the agreement that you have made and remind each other about that.
Don’t taint the “our-time” you should share by focusing on something else or someone else, especially when your partner really looks forwards about that. And don’t force “our-time” when it’s the time for personal space.
4. Make each other better
In a healthy relationship, you’re not only making each other happy but you also make each other better. Supporting, encouraging, and accompanying your partner to be the best version for them is an important matter. The best relationship is in a relationship where you can both grow. Hence, stay open mind about their dream and their goal; stop them if they’re doing anything reckless that is undoubtedly bad for them, and stay with them through thick and thin.
Don’t just be there for your partner when things are going well, easy, or when it’s convenience for you.
5. Do it together
The ultimate basis of a healthy relationship is that it’s not done one way. It should be done by both, together. A relationship is first and utmost a deal of two people. Thus, even if one side can score perfectly in the four points above, it’ll be a zero score for the Healthy Relationship 101 class if it’s not under the mutual tag. No relationship is healthy if you continuously do and your partner only receives, and so is the opposite. A healthy relationship is two people who want to work it together.
So, don’t let your partner strive alone for your relationship.
And that is the end of class. Good luck with your relationship, everyone!